Tuesday, January 31, 2012

20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships

I stumbled across this article through a friend on Facebook...found it pretty interesting and possibly you can gain a little somethin somethin from it! If I see other articles that spark my eye, you may see these more often!

20 Things to Start Doing in Your Relationships
{Article from Marc & Angel Hack Life}

Family isn’t always blood. They’re the people in your life who appreciate having you in theirs – the ones who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways, and who not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be. These people – your real family – are the ones who truly matter.
Here are twenty tips to help you find and foster these special relationships.

1. Free yourself from negative people. – Spend time with nice people who are smart, driven and likeminded. Relationships should help you, not hurt you. Surround yourself with people who reflect the person you want to be. Choose friends who you are proud to know, people you admire, who love and respect you – people who make your day a little brighter simply by being in it. Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. When you free yourself from negative people, you free yourself to be YOU – and being YOU is the only way to truly live. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

2. Let go of those who are already gone. – The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are. So when people walk away from you, let them go. Your destiny is never tied to anyone who leaves you. It doesn’t mean they are bad people; it just means that their part in your story is over.

3. Give people you don’t know a fair chance. – When you look at a person, any person, remember that everyone has a story. Everyone has gone through something that has changed them, and forced them to grow. Every passing face on the street represents a story every bit as compelling and complicated as yours. We meet no ordinary people in our lives. If you give them a chance, everyone has something amazing to offer. So appreciate the possibility of new relationships as you naturally let go of old ones that no longer work. Trust your judgment. Embrace new relationships, knowing that you are entering into unfamiliar territory. Be ready to learn, be ready for a challenge, and be ready to meet someone that might just change your life forever.

4. Show everyone kindness and respect. – Treat everyone with kindness and respect, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are. There are no boundaries or classes that define a group of people that deserve to be respected. Treat everyone with the same level of respect you would give to your grandfather and the same level of patience you would have with your baby brother. People will notice your kindness.

5. Accept people just the way they are. – In most cases it’s impossible to change them anyway, and it’s rude to try. So save yourself from needless stress. Instead of trying to change others, give them your support and lead by example.

6. Encourage others and cheer for them. – Having an appreciation for how amazing the people around you are leads to good places – productive, fulfilling, peaceful places. So be happy for those who are making progress. Cheer for their victories. Be thankful for their blessings, openly. What goes around comes around, and sooner or later the people you’re cheering for will start cheering for you.

7. Be your imperfectly perfect self. – In this crazy world that’s trying to make you like everyone else, find the courage to keep being your awesome self. And when they laugh at you for being different, laugh back at them for being the same. Spend more time with those who make you smile and less time with those who you feel pressured to impress. Be your imperfectly perfect self around them. We are not perfect for everyone, we are only perfect for those select few people that really take the time to get to know us and love us for who we really are. And to those select few, being our imperfectly perfect self is what they love about us.

8. Forgive people and move forward. – Don’t live your life with hate in your heart. You will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not saying, “What you did to me is okay.” It is saying, “I’m not going to let what you did to me ruin my happiness forever.” Forgiveness is the remedy. It doesn’t mean you’re erasing the past, or forgetting what happened. It means you’re letting go of the resentment and pain, and instead choosing to learn from the incident and move on with your life. Remember, the less time you spend hating the people who hurt you, the more time you’ll have to love the people who love you.

9. Do little things every day for others. – Sometimes those little things occupy the biggest part of their hearts. You can’t be everything to everyone, but you can be everything to a few people. Decide who these people are in your life and treat them like royalty.

10. Pay attention to who your real friends are. – As we grow up, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones. Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.

11. Always be loyal. – True love and real friendship aren’t about being inseparable. These relationships are about two people being true to each other even when they are separated. When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option, but a priority. Loyalty is everything.

12. Stay in better touch with people who matter to you. – In human relationships distance is not measured in miles, but in affection. Two people can be right next to each other, yet miles apart. So don’t ignore someone you care about, because lack of concern hurts more than angry words.
Stay in touch with those who matter to you. Not because it’s convenient, but because they’re worth the extra effort. Remember, you don’t need a certain number of friends, just a number of friends you can be certain of. Paying attention to these people is a priority.

13. Keep your promises and tell the truth. – If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. It’s always better to tell people the truth up front. Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Don’t tell half-truths and expect people to trust you when the full truth comes out; half-truths are no better than lies. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts.
Never mess with someone’s feelings just because you’re unsure of yours. Always be open and honest.

14. Give what you want to receive. – Don’t expect what you are not willing to give. Start practicing the golden rule. If you want love, give love. If you want friends, be friendly. If you want money, provide value. It works. It really is this simple. Read The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.

15. Say what you mean and mean what you say. – Give the people in your life the information they need, rather than expecting them to know the unknowable. Information is the grease that keeps the engine of communication functioning. Start communicating clearly. Don’t try to read other people’s minds, and don’t make other people try to read yours. Most problems, big and small, within a family, friendship, or business relationship, start with bad communication.

16. Allow others to make their own decisions. – Do not judge others by your own past. They are living a different life than you are. What might be good for one person may not be good for another. What might be bad for one person might change another person’s life for the better. Allow people to make their own mistakes and their own decisions.

17. Talk a little less, and listen more. – Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.

18. Leave petty arguments alone. – Someone else doesn’t have to be wrong for you to be right. There are many roads to what’s right. And most of the time it just doesn’t matter that much. Read How To Win Friends and Influence People.

19. Ignore unconstructive, hurtful commentary. – No one has the right to judge you. They might have heard your stories, but they didn’t feel what you were going through. No matter what you do, there will always be someone who thinks differently. So concentrate on doing what you know in your heart is right. What most people think and say about you isn’t all that important. What is important is how you feel about yourself.

20. Pay attention to your relationship with yourself. – One of the most painful things in life is losing yourself in the process of loving others too much, and forgetting that you are special too. When was the last time someone told you that they loved you just the way you are, and that what you think and how you feel matters? When was the last time someone told you that you did a good job, or took you someplace, simply because they know you feel happy when you’re there? When was the last time that ‘someone’ was YOU?

Saturday, January 28, 2012

My "Friends" are No Good! Enablers!

Who do I blame for introducing me to Pinterest??? Laurie? Wendy? Sasha? Jennifer? Marie? Rachel? Who???
**Holly...I just saw your post to back away before its too late....It was officially too late a few days ago...lol.

Who wants to take the blame? I cannot take responsibility for all of this craziness....I joined Pinterest I believe back in the summer time...but never really understood what all the hooplah was about!? WTH am I supposed to do on Pinterest and I mean what is the point in this whole thing!?

And oh...yeah...Chere! You are the one who told me that they had an app for the Iphone...yeah, at least my husband is not asking me what im doin on the phone...lol..maybe cuz I don't have a husband! But if I did...he would be asking me the same thing.

Speaking of...my babe asked what is Pinterest! Well here you go..

Pinterest is an online pinboard to organize and share your inspirations! Pin your favorite images and videos from anywhere. Discover new things hand-picked by people who share your interests.

(Hopes this helps love)...but this is one of the reasons why I was up till almost 4am last night..total time sucker! Im sorry!

Well if you are one of me bloggy friends FOLLOW ME AND I WILL FOLLOW YOOOOU!!!
One of my fav boards is the FOOD obviously..lol...and the board I added alot to this morning was my Throwback board....check out these greats that made me have some flashbacks:

Signin off..a new Pinterest Junkie!

Thursday, January 26, 2012

Entertainment Week - Catching Up!!

Pattys 4-1-1

No prenup? Then no wedding and no marriage! The Queen Of Soul, Aretha Franklin caved into family pressures and canceled her upcoming summer wedding to long-time beau, Willie Wilkerson. Franklin’s sons did not want her to get married because they were worried about their place in her life and her fortune. Wilkerson and Franklin have been dating for close to 25 years. He felt he didn’t need to sign a prenup, but her sons and family felt differently. In the end, she caved into family pressure. The wedding has been called off, and now everyone is wondering if she will continue her relationship with Wilkerson. Look for Re Re to be one of the headliners of The 2012 Essence Music Festival taking place July 6th, 7th and 8th in New Orleans. Also on the bill are Fantasia, SWV, Keyshia Cole, Mary J. Blige, Ledisi, Charlie Wilson, Raheem DeVaughn, Vivian Green and Stephanie Mills.

High altitude got the best of Actor/Comedian Tracy Morgan. He collapsed at the Sundance Film Festival. Morgan has been ordered to rest after being hospitalized. Doctors are worried about his health since he was a recipient of a new kidney last year.

Everyone wants Vanessa Bryant! The very rich ex-wife of Lakers Superstar Kobe Bryant has been offered a deal by VH1 to be the new star of the L.A. version of their Basketball Wives reality franchise. Will Vanessa take the offer? She was just awarded $75 million and three mansions from Kobe Bryant, who cheated on her for years. They didn’t have a prenup! Will
Vanessa cash in again and be a reality star?

Randy Jackson is firing back at his ex, Alejandra Jackson! Alejandra had two children by Randy then turned around and married his brother Jermaine and had two kids by him! This incident caused major strife in the Jackson family. Alejandra has been using Katherine Jackson and her family by living off of them all these years. Randy says he wants his ex to stop sponging off the Jacksons. It’s been going on for two decades and enough is enough! Randy owes his ex $600,000 in back child support. Randy is fighting this claim because he says he struck a deal Alejandra back in 1993. He claims the deal is she could live in the Jackson estate, and he wouldn’t have to pay child support.

Is the Seal-Heidi Klum breakup a publicity stunt to help him sell albums? Sources say Klum can’t deal with Seal’s volatile temper. He is frustrated with his recording career, and Klum the supermodel is the breadwinner with her millions. They have three kids together and Seal adopted Klum’s oldest daughter. Seal refuses to stop wearing his wedding ring. Could he be in denial? If he divorces Klum, will he go after her money?

The 84th Annual Academy Awards is February 26th. The show will air on ABC, and Billy Crystal is hosting. The movie The Help has nabbed four nominations including Best Actress for Viola Davis, Best Supporting Actress for Octavia Spencer and Best Picture. The Help is also dominating the Screen Actors Guild Awards with four nominations, including Best Ensemble Cast, Best Actress (Viola Davis) and Best Supporting Actress (Octavia Spencer). The SAG Awards take place on February 26th.The Help just won the Black Critics Award for Best Picture.

Is Whitney Houston Broke? Houston is said to be having financial problems. She can no longer perform live and never wrote any of her music. Sources close to the superstar are shutting down reports of her being in financial trouble. Houstonwill be starring in the remake of the 1976 film classic Sparkle with Jordin Sparks. Houston is being urged to write a tell-all book about her life. The music business, the drugs, how the excesses almost killed her and her life with her ex, Bobby Brown, would all have to be in the book. If she tells the truth, the book could be an instant bestseller with copies in the millions!

The Reverend Jesse Jackson is also making headlines. Last week, published reports came out claiming he wasn’t paying child support for his 12-year-old love child. Years ago, Jackson had a child outside of his marriage with his jump off. Karin Stanford got her face cracked when she thought Jackson would leave his wife Jacqueline and marry her. Stanford claims Jackson owes her $12,000 in back support, and says he gives her money when he wants to. Jackson claims he has been paying his child support.

Funeral services are set for Singer Etta James, who died last week at the age of 73 of complications from leukemia. James was best known for her songs Something’s Got A Hold On Me, Stop The Wedding, Tell Mama, and her signature piece, At Last. The public viewing takes place Friday and the funeral services Saturday with Reverend Al Sharpton eulogizing the singing legend.

Star Jones is coming back to The View! Jones left the show in a firestorm six years ago, but she’s returning to the show as a guest in February. Jones will be discussing heart disease as February is Women’s Heart Health Month……. and ratings sweeps month.

Our condolences go out to the family of Fatimah Ali. Ali, 56, was a veteran broadcast and print journalist. She worked at Power 99, WHAT-AM, WURD 900 AM and here at WDAS radio. Ali also worked for the Philadelphia Daily News and Philadelphia Sunday Sun. She was a passionate voice in the fight for others whose voices weren’t always heard. She leaves behind five beautiful children. Ali was fearless in her work and her dedication will always be remembered!

How hot is Ne-Yo? He is on the cover of the latest Ebony magazine. He is one of the young stars of the hit movie Red Tails, and now the singer/songwriter/producer just got a promotion. Ne-Yo has been named the head of A&R (artist development) and senior vice president for Motown Records.

Fashion Icon Mikki Taylor has a new book dedicated to First Lady Michelle Obama. The book, Commander In Chic, is dedicated to the fashion stylings of Mrs. Obama.

I hear a June wedding in Miami could be in the works for Eagles Quarterback Michael Vick and his fiancée Kijafa Frink.

The New England Patriots and the New York Giants will battle it out in the Superbowl. All eyes will be on Indianapolis the weekend of February 3rd. On Friday, the 3rd, it’s the gospel celebration which is part of the Superbowl festivities with Fantasia, Wayne Brady, Hezekiah Walker, CeCe Winans, and Donnie McClurkin.

Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Slice of Wry - San Bdo Sun Newspaper

This is about 4 people: Everybody, Somebody, Anybody and Nobody.
There was an important job to be done and Everybody was asked to do it. Everybody was sure Somebody would do it. Anybody could have done it, but Nobody did it.

Somebody got angry about that because it was Everybody's job. Everybody thought Anybody could do it, but Nobody realized that Everybody wouldn't do it.

It ended up that Everybody blamed Somebody when actually Nobody asked Anybody

- found in the Sun Newspaper a few years ago...thought I would share...

Sunday, January 22, 2012

Last of the Scrappy Goodness for the Weekend

What a wonderful scrappy weekend it was! Best part was I got to scrap with my mom like old times. Friday and Saturday we stayed up well past midnight scrapping...last night I didn't go to bed till about 3:30ish...but man, it was a good thing! I needed that bonding time with my mama!

What you see below is a late night / early morning snack that gave me and mom an extra boost last night / this morning...lol...

Magic Shell and Golden or French Vanilla is the business...my favorite! Mom had the strawberry stuff and Vanilla Ice Cream...

Layouts completed last night, some of them for the challenges posted on Colorful Creations...

This layout was completed for a challenge at Colorful Creations, where you would use lyrics of a song in your layout / title.
The song I used was Erykah Badu's "Appletree" song...love the words of her songs...

Yup! Me and my boo boo!!

Us again...playing around...he thinks im a fool with my funny faces...lol...(taken at Stateline Black Friday Turnaround Trip) with the Red Hatters...

This layout is for my cousin that graduated last year...proud of her...GO Mo!

Me and my Sandz from Zeta Phi Beta Sorority, Inc! We had an awesome time at our other Sandz wedding....

Man I had a good time gettin stuff done this weekend!

Hope you enjoyed as much as I enjoyed sharing!

Saturday, January 21, 2012

1st Stab at Spoken Word..

The man attends Cross Word Christian Church in Moreno Valley and he invited me to join him at the church for spoken word, poetry night. I believe they do this every Friday. One of his good friends is in charge of it. For my first time, it was pretty cool, met some of his friends at church and some other closer friends.

There was a segment that was introduced to the audience that would give people the opportunity to participate in the whole evening. What they did was read out 3 words. The 2 out of the 3 were: hands and house. For the life of me I cannot remember what the 3rd was.
Anyhow, what you would have to do is, use one, two or all 3 of the words in a piece that came straight off the dome.

So....Im sitting and listening to all the beginners, intermediate and advanced sistas and brothas that got up there and did there thing. They received love. I in no way shape, form, or fashion was an expert at this. But for whatever reason I had a wild hair and said, what the hell, why not! So the facilitators passed out 3x5 index cards, and whatever you could fit on that card, do it! No profanity, sexual implications or nada...so I said, I can do this!

Because it was my first time meeting some of Mr. P's friends and all up in his church, the pressure was on
So this is what I came up with:

Different sizes
Different colors
ashy or moisturized.
Loving my baby girls hands
and missing the touch of my grandmothers hands.
She had the softest pair of hands where I always felt safe & sound.
Even though you are gone Nana
rest assured...
Because even though I no longer physically have your hands,
HIS hands keep ME protected!
In HIS hands, I feel safe and secure!
MY GOD places his hands on me when I think they are not....
My God's hands...
he holds me
in the light
and in the dark...
Continue to hold me Lord,
in your hands.

Boom! The crowd loved me....
**Thanks babe for having faith in me..you ARE my biggest cheerleader! MUAH!

Layouts & My Artist!

Tonight, I stayed indoors and scrapbooked with my mama. In the midst of scrapping, I thought I would visit Colorful Creations and check out some of the sketches that they had goin on and got some inspiration. If you haven't checked out Colorful Creations, check them out!

Below the layouts, little miss was altering a wooden box with some pink paint. She loved foing "art projects". After she painted it and it dried, I let her go to town with decorating it. It is now covered in sponge / styrofoam type stickers...I should had took a pic of the finished product, I will do that later. =) But she did a great job!

Layout #1

Layout #2 - This was a challenge over at Colorful Creations. Layout had to include the quote, "Believe in the beauty of your dreams"....love that quote. Love this pic of Bre, she was only 6 weeks old here...my precious girl! Layout #3 was a Sketch Challenge at Colorful Creations, check out their blog here. This layout is me and my girlfriend Robin at the House of Blues Gospel Brunch, fundraiser by the Deer Creek Red Haters, Rancho Cucamonga.

My future artist...

Sunday, January 15, 2012

Recap for 2011

Something I usually like to do on New Years Eve, but its okay that i'm about 2 weeks late...enjoy!


Me and my girlfriends and cousins joined the Janice and her Red Hatter group on this fundraiser trip to Viejas Casino & Outlet mall...we had a ball!

Me and some girls from WhoGivesaScrap had our Winter Retreat....had a blast as usual!


Miss Bre Bre competed in her first beauty pageant and won 2 trophies. Was invited to Palm Springs for the Regional Competition...but we passed...she didn't realize what had just went down! But mommy was proud of her! She did her thing!

I was able to spend time with my Sandz before Keshawna jumped the broom! We ahd a fun sleepover, played games and got a little toasty...shout out to my Dominguez Hills Sandz that were in the building too!


  • WhoGivesAScrap at the monthly crop in Orange....hello ladies!

Me and a handful of my Sandz at Keshawna & Angelo's wedding. It was beautiful! Wedding was super fantastic! Shout out to Summer 03! Z-Phiii....You KNOW!

Congrats to my cousin Monique for obtaining her degree! Super proud of her what a great mission to accomplish! Hangin out with my cousins!

Me and some of my close friends enjoyed a night of comedy at the Contagious Tuesdays comedy night at the Ontario Improv.

Me & Miss Rasheedah (my friend since Pre-K)

My sistas from otha mistas!
Azeb & Alondra...


We embarked on our week long Carribean Cruise with Carnival. Had a blast! Flew out of San Juan, Puerto Rico.

It had been a long time since we all traveled together as a family. =)

Bre enjoyed her first cruise! She was a good girl...had a blast!

Me and my Bre-Bre enjoying our vacation!

OMG! One of the most exhilarating things I have ever done! Zip Lining above a tropical rain forest in St. Maarten...whew! Scary at first, but loosened up after about the 2nd go around! Even dad had a blast!

Bre embarked upon her 1st day of Pre-K at Tutor Time. She loved it! Not only was it her first day in Pre-K, it was her first time in her big girl seat!


A few of my girlfriends celebrated our birthdays, started at Azebs house...we had a good night out!


Ha! We hadplanned a bowling night with coworkers. We had a really good time! Can't wait to do it again!


Yup! Thats my babe! (Yes, this is the first time I have posted a pic of him)...he has been my sunlight and warmth to my dark cold days... =)


Farewell dinner to Ricardo who you cannot see in this pic...he ws hiding behind me. We celebrated his departure to another job / state at El Toritos, good times!

Girls Getaway Cruise to Ensenada...we got super bold and took a pic with a baby tiger. We also took a pic with a baby lion that Azeb held...yeah we got super bold that day...it was cool though...only live once!

Muy Bonita...

Captains Dinner...Funky Fresh Dressed to Impress ready to party!!

Me & my girl Azeb...was her & Alondras 1st cruise...


Had the pleasure of meeting Mr. P's mommy....=)

Thamksgiving Day...miss Alanna & the man...

Enjoying some fresh aie ar Kona Kai Scrappin Escapes Scrapbook retreat...

Me & my numba #1!!!!

Bre reading her letter from Santa...


Merry Christmas!

Me & the man!

The girls on Christmas Day with their tu-tu's!

My cousins!

Steppin out!

Me & my girl! Love her!

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