Day 20 - Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future

{Day 20 Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future}

Well as mentioned before I've got some someone super special next to me right now....and we have grown real close and I don't intend on letting him go anytime soon.

There has been a lot of what we may think are coincidences but its not that, its something from a higher source!

Honestly, I have never been this happy in a LONG time. Now, true, I have had great times and thank God for all my friends and my wonderful girlfriends that have kept a smile on my face, but this man right here...keeps me smilin! We have ALOT in common, have alot of the same beliefs, share the same values, and most importantly, we are intertwined spiritually. So important!

So..the challenge was posting about someone I see myself marrying, or being with in the future...stay tuned for future testimonies!

Thank you for being you!

Day #19 - Nicknames I Have & Why I Have Them

{Day 19 Nicknames you have; why do you have them}

I had a distinctive name that my aunt Judy gave me...I don't get to hear it anymore because she is no longer with us...

The nickname was....."Bean".....you ask "why bean?"...she claimed I looked like a Pinto Bean! Say WHUUUT!!!???



Well I wore my nickname proudly...lol...

Thats about it...
Love you Aunt Judy...miss hearing you call me "Bean"...miss you.

Day #18 - Plans / dreams / goals I have

Well I am SO behind, thanks for the reminder Kim & Alondra! Okay, I am trying again! In a perfect world, I would had began on the 1st and ended on the 30th or 31st...well as you may or may not know...I am not perfect NOR do I ever do whats according to plan! =) Anyhow...attempting to make another stab!

{Day 18 Plans/dreams/goals you have}

Plans
1. Today I am planning on getting back on track with this blog challenge, cuz this is simply ridiculous!
2. My plans for Thanksgiving is to enjoy my family and some new additions to my family gatherings! (Yeah!)
3. I plan on enjoying my turnaround trip with my boo and close family / friends
4. I plan on scrapping alot before the end of the year!
5. I plan on enjoying a Girls Night in at my sista Janice house for a Christmas get together. When we get together its a complete sista bonding and we are a help to one another an awesome sounding board for advice, sharing stories, uplifting, etc. Can't wait!

Dreams
Dreams...hmmm...
My dreams are to simply continue to live life to the fullest with no regrets. The Lord has given me all necessary tools needed to continue on my path. I dream to be the best parent that I can be, be the best daughter I can be, the me that I can be! He is not done with me yet...keep workin on me Lord!

Goals
With 2011 coming to an end, I do not have any major goals but to bring in this new year with better and higher expectations! I am anxious to see what 2012 has in store. This was another rough year, but began to ease up towards the latter half of the year. Whatever has happened has only made me stronger! I will keep climbing and reaching towards the light!

Holla!

Day #17 - Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why

{Day 17 Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why}

I guess if I had to choose someone to switch lives with someone for one day it would have to be Miss Oprah!

Many don't care for her too much, but I think that many more LOVE her. I am one of those. Not to mention she is one of the most wealthiest in the world, but I would love to have access to her monies for a day! I would love to see how it feels to give money to those in need. Donating to my community, giving children what they need to function in schools, fund school programs to help kids stay out the streets. I would love to rub elbows with some of her favorite people, Michelle Obama, Obama, Tom Cruise, Maya Angelou, Rachel Ray, Dr. Phil to name a few.

Day #16 - Another picture of yourself

{Day 16 Another picture of yourself}

Here is a snapshot of me when we arrived in Ensenada, Mexico..foolin around in sombreros! Ole'!!!

Day 15 - Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play

{Day 15 Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play}

This one was easy, here ya go!

1. Between the Sheets - Isley Brothers
2. Missing You - Black Eyed Peas
3. Rimshot - Erykah Badu
4. OMG - Usher
5. Juicy Fruit - Mtume
6. Hypnotic - R.Kelly & Syleena Johnson
7. Murder She Wrote - Chaka Demus & Pliers
8. Nite & Day - Al B. Sure
9. It's Love - Jill Scott
10. Danger - Erykah Badu

Day #14 - A Picture of You & Your Family

{Day 14 A picture of you and your family}

Not sure why this post is all off centered...and I am sleepy, so I can't fix it now..sorry. LOL..

Below, are pics of me and Bre Bre, then my parents and sister.

This one includes my dad.. =)

Day 13 - A letter to someone who has hurt you recently

{Day 13 A letter to someone who has hurt you recently}


OK.
I have been on a small hiatus for this challenge and I am going to do my best to catch up today, by posting multiple challenges. One reason I have gotten off track is becuase I took a quick trip to Ensenada on a Girls Get Away cruise. Second reason I have not been on here to post could be because I was avoiding this challenge. I guess its time to do it and move on!

Here, we go...

A letter to my past.

I have been challenged to write a letter to someone who has hurt me recently. Becuase of the pain that I have experienced the past 2 years, I have built this huge wall which has help assisted on blocking any future hurts and pains. I have not had anyone hurt me as bad as you have. Of course, if someone asked you, you may sit and say the same thing which is to be expected.

I have attempted to make peace with you in many ways, but I think due to the bitterness and the twisted feelings that we have for one another another it is difficult to find peace and be at peace with what has occured. Even though I am a better woman today than I was 2 years ago, I still hurt at night knowing that half of my life was on unsteady ground, built on quicksand. Granted, there were many good times and most def had our share of bad times. There was a point in time where the bad begin to outweigh the good. We were young when we got married, and as we know it now, I think it is safe to say we both were comfortable and no one was ready or had the guts to make the first step to say, it can't go on like this.

I keep erasing what is really on my mind, because I do have to keep in mind that this is a public forum and as I should not really care what you may think about what I have to say, you are still human and Gods child.

We both know what went down so because this letter is to YOU, you already know whats up. HOWEVER, the best part that has come out of this is my beautiful daughter, and I would not trade her for the world..not at all! Another great thing that has come out of this all is the fact that I have been able to take a look back and realize where I failed as a wife, what I could had done better to save my marriage. I can proudly say that I can admit to myself that I acknowledge my faults. Whether or not you want to believe it or not, I do accept what I lacked. You know that when we married we married young...didn't really know what being married was all about. Who did we really have in our corner to talk about marriage to?

Because of all this that has occured, I am a better woman and will most deifnately become a better wife to the next man. Because please trust, I am wifey material.. =) One thing that lacked in our marriage was our love for God. God was NOT in our marriage where he should had been, we both lacked faith, and without that, we were doomed from the gate.

Only time and prayer is a healer of all wounds. Only time and prayer. God has my back and as long as you are on the right track with him my friend, he will have yours.

I have fallin...but will get back up!! My bad!

I apologize....I was away cruisin the Pacific Ocean with 10 other amazing sistas...I will resume with my challenge this evening...Sorry!

Day #12 - How you found out about Blogger and why you made one

Day 12 How you found out about Blogger and why you made one

Wow! I am super amazed that I have been blogging since 2005! WOW! I have changed blogs since then but I have still provided you with a link of my very first posting I ever made. Back in 2005, I was still married and that year my almost lost her life...a scary summer!

Lets see...how I found out about Blogger...man...I don't know! I think I may have stumbled across links as I was surfing scrapbook.com. But I am so glad that I did! Its an awesome thing! The best part is reading back and reflecting! Holly do you remember us trying it out?

Click here for my very very first post!

Thursday, September 22, 2005
Test 1,2 1,2
This is only a test...
I had to see what was the big deal with all this Blog stuff! It sounded like a monster or a big nasty booger, hell I didn't know! So I had to figure it out and try one for myself to see what the big hoopla was about Blogging! Again, this is only a test...I have to see what this is all about and if I like, I will stay! If not, I'm out!

Click here for previous posts!

Day #11 - Another picture of you andyour friends

{Day 11 Another picture of you and your friends}

Well this challenge was quite easy...here are 3 more recent pics taken last week:


Me & Milly at El Torito's celebrating Ricardos goin away!


My girlfriends celebrating our 1st Annual National Taco Day: Maronda, Myself, Rochelle, Alondra & kids had to be all up in the pic...

My other girlfriends @ El Torito's: Myself, Suzette & Angela

Us being silly after gettin crazy full off of Tacos!

See prior blog posts here!

Day#10 - Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad

{Day 10 - Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad}

I love music period. Bottom line. I am the girl that dances around in a t-shirt, panties and colorful tube socks!

I am not really the girl who has a play list for when I am feeling down and out and feelin sorry for myself, it sure woulda been played out if I did have one! However, I do have certain playlist that I listen to when I am amped or hyped and then I have a play list when I am in a chill mode.

I will look through my IPOD and give you 10 random ones that I see at a glance!

Amped / Hyped List

B.o.B & Bruno Mars - Nothin on You
Black Eye Peas - Imma B
Cali Swagg District - Teach Me How to Dougie
Cupid - Cupid Shuffle
Ester Dean feat Chris Brown - Drop it Low
Ludacris - My Chic Bad
Monica - Everytime the Beat Drop
Beyonce - Get Me Bodied
Beyonce - Freakum Dress
Chris Brown - Look at Me Now

Chillax Mode List

Jill Scott - Love all her music, musical genius!



Erykah Badu - Luv me some Miss Badu as well...wish I could find my Baduism Live CD.. =(


Robin Thick -Somethin about this mans soulful sultry voice! Get it Robin! Luv his swagg!



LAST BUTR NOT LEAST!!!!

Vanilla Ice...yeah buddy!

NOT!!! ....Never noticed he was missing a finger...hmm...things that make you go hmm..

View prior post from the challenge here!

Day #9 - Something you're proud of in the past few days

{Day 09 Something you’re proud of in the past few days}


Something I am proud of that I have done in the past few days is being able to realize that I am doing the right thing. I have prayed for God to shine his sunrays once again on my life that was once being shadowed by dark stormy clouds...but I have learned to just let GO & LET GOD!! I am proud that I have remained faithful and believed that he was gonna shine on me!!

This past month has been amazing! I am proud of just LETTIN GO!!! And goin with the flow!

Holla!

For a recap on challenges, click here!

Day #8 - Short term goals for this month and why

{Day 08 Short term goals for this month and why}

A few short term goals I have for this month:

1. Have a great time on my upcoming cruise with my girlefriends!
2. Get my tail light fixed.
3. Get caught up with stuff on my desk at work.
4. Create a budget for my personal finances
5. Send pictures to my dad and a family friend in Hawaii

I think that will do it for the month of October! I don't wanna start makin up stuff!

Find a recap of the challenges here

Day #7 - A picture of someone, something that has the biggest impact on you

{Day 07 A picture of someone, something that has the biggest impact on you}
(sorry for the smaller size pics...)









Ever since my little Bre Bre has came into my life, my life has drastically changed!
She is the reason that I wake up! Because of her I have continued to push harder and harder each day. I live for her, she is my strength! Being a parent is a blessing and has allowed me to look things through a deeper source.

Heavenly Father I THANK YOU for allowing me to be a mother! You have taught me so much, so many lessons and she is such a blessing to my life.

Find a recap of the challenges here

Day #6 - Favorite super hero and why

{Day 06 Favorite super hero and why}

Stumbled across this poem "SuperHero" thought it was pretty cool and thought I would share with ya!

"If I could be a superhero
I would be... Awesome {wo}Man
I’d fly around the world fighting crime
According to my awesome plan
And if I saw criminals trying to lie
Hurting other people and making them cry
I'd haul them off to jail in my awesome van
'Cause I would be Awesome {wo}Man"
— Stephen Lynch, "Superhero


The challenge was to post a pic of my favorite superhero...well if I'm not too much of a comic strip fan or into superheros. My ultimate superhero would be the almighty father himself! However, if I had to choose one, I would choose my favorite childhood here, which was WonderWoman!

I have got to ask my mom to dig the pic of me and my WonderWoman outfit on when I was kid. Well, let me stop lyin, it wasn't really even an outfit, but more like under-roos! I will find it and post it...it will make you giggle, I still giggle today. I remember having my patent leather shoes on.....on the wrong feet! Good times.





Find a recap of the challenges here.

Day #5 - A Picture of Somewhere You've Been To

{Day 05 A picture of somewhere you’ve been to}

This past summer I visited a few islands that I had never been to. One of them in particular that was a favorite was St. Lucia. It was very pretty and green, would love to go back! I am blessed to have been able to bring my baby girl along with me as well. She had a blast with every island we visited while on the cruise.



Recap

Day 1
Day 2
Day 3
Day 4

Day #4 - A habit that you wish you didn't have

{Day 04 A habit that you wish you didn't have}

This wasn't too hard to answer....
Okay...confession time I guess. Okay, well I have a horrible habit of patting my head to itch my scalp...ok, ok, BEAT my head. Only those that do it, will be able to relate. It is almost equivalent to a vigorous scalp scrub at the shop...feels SOOOO good!!!

I can recall a scrapbook retreat I was at and I tried to do this very softly, as softly as possible and my other sistahs who didn't have weaves thought they were gonna have to call 9-1-1!
They started busting up and just didn't quite know what to think..., talkin about, "Trish are you ok!?"

I am trying to not do it as much because Bre seems to think she has to do it now...and I think she does it to copy me instead of a necessity...lol.

So there you have it...I beat my scalp....

Recap of Previous Posts:
Day 1
Day 2
Day 3

Day #3 - A picture of you and your friends

{Day 03 A picture of you and your friends}

Ok...so I have a lot of wonderful people in my life, and what? Well the challenge was to put up a picture of me and my friends...well here ya go! These are only a few pics that I had at my fingertips....

Each of these photos have pics of people in my life that I hold dear to my heart! I treasure all of the relationships that I do have. Disclaimer...don't go hard on me if you don't see a pic of yourself...know that you are loved and I just simply couldn't find one. I know this post is out of control long, but so what...its my blog..lol.

I am SO blessed to have many friendships!!! Thank you to all my friends who are in my life! Love yall....




Cousins Tyee & Mo

Me & my girl from Pre-K...Miss Rasheedah...luv ya girl!

At a Laker game, me and Bonqui-qui (we make up names) AKA Tracie, anutha sista from anutha mista..great inspiration to me...always there for me when I need to talk!

This is one crazy dude...me and Albert!

My wonderful coworkers on a bowling night...Milly, Jose G and Yours Truly!


Another pic of me and coworkers! Christine, Laurie, Erika, Azeb and Aisha

Sistas Maronda, Rochelle & Alondra celebrating my 33rd bday gettin our groove on!

3's a Charm! Milly, myself and Zeb share July bdays...hollerrr!

My SANDZ!!!! Summer 03! Nicole, Rasheedah, Gabe, Grace and myself...Z-Phiiii!!!

Luv this chic! My Sandz Gabe!

Luv her too! My Zebs!

Girls night out at the Improv...Miss Rochelle, Miss Azeb and Miss Alondra!

Me and Sheedah

At a crop gettin our scrap on...Miss Janice & Alondra

My Sandz, Summer 03....Z-PhiiiI!! (Rasheedah, Tiffany & Keshawna)

Hangin out at Bostons, Suzette, Azeb, Janice & Rasheedah..

My WhoGivesaScrap girls! Janice, Audrey, Kierstin, Wendy, Cynthia, Robin, Billie, Charlie, Marjorie, Marie & Melissa....enjoying ourselves at one of our retreats!

One of the best days of my life! Spent with Rochelle, Alondra, Azeb, Chrystal & Milly..yeah we all had Coach purchases...ALL OF US! =)

Alondra & Azeb...we got in trouble together in the Coach store.. =)

Recap of previous challenges...

Day 1

Day 2

Day #2 - The Meaning Behind Your Blogger Name

{Day 02 The meaning behind your Blogger name}

Supahwoman - Well it is WHUT it is....exactly that. I am a supahwoman! I am many things! Many people! and wear MANY HATS! Since the fall of my marriage, I quickly saw how challenging it was to be a superwoman! HOWEVER, I have gladly put on my cape, my crime fighting boots and by headband and I am ready!

I thought of Supahwoman because there are many times where all I had was ME. If I want somethin done, I gotta get it done, regardless of how it gets done or what I gotta do, it has to get done. Only a supahwoman can juggle 100 things at once and still claim her sanity. Alot of friends of mine tell me to slow down and proceed to tell me I am doin too much...but is there such thing when you are Supahwoman!? Nope...so I continue to wear my cape and wear it proud!

I GOT THE "S" ON MY CHEST!

For a recap of the previous click below:
Day 1

Day #1 - A Recent Pic of You & 15 Interesting Facts About Yourself

{Day 01 A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself.}

Ok, here we go..this is recent enough, taken in August.



15 Interesting Facts

1. For 5 generations every first born of the first born in my family has been a girl. (I made the 5th generation, Bre made the 6th generation).
2. I still have and still sleep with my receiving blankets...SO WHUT!
3. I am my mothers only child.
4. I am happy to have a car with only my name on it!
5. Love old skool Hip Hop, yes indeedy!
6. I admit to having a Spice Girls CD somewhere in my stash..
7. Have a major addiction with TACOS...yumm...
8. Been allergic to peanuts and shellfish all my life, and barely started carrying my Epipen in my purse.
9. Prefer Coach over any other.
10. Wrote Victoria Secret off my list when they didn't sell bras for blessed women in their store..Fredricks "X" bra is the bizness!
11. In love with Magic Shell and Golden Vanilla Ice Cream
12. Have a MAJOR addiction to Candy Corn...
13. Still friends with many of my childhood friends...I keeps mine!
14. God has blessed me with someone special, for real!
15. Cried when I gave birth to Bre cuz it took SOOO long to have her!!

I am up for the Challenge to Self!

With attempting to try and stay on top of my blogging I have been a bit inspired by my cyber girlfriend Brown English Muffin's challenge that she took part in.
Since today is October 1st, what better day to kick off a challenge to self! If you are interested, try participating yourself and do it on your own blog! This may become very interesting reads for some.

As I begin to turn new leaves over in my life, new things are beginning to unfold. I am learning to LET GO of things of my past and welcome the new...with open arms. Some days I feel like I have been through hell and back but this past month has been a blessing. =)
Stay tuned and you may find out some interesting facts about a sista!

This is my blog, so you will get nuthin but the truth so help me God! If you are NOT a friend of mine and you are lurking to just be nosey, don't even bother asking me any questions! It is what it is!

Below you will find a list of the challenges. I will be creating an area in my side bar that will have links to my daily posts in hopes that it will help you follow me on this challenge. Day #1 will begin in a separate post!

*Wishing myself luck!*....I am known to be a slacker at times... =/

M-O-T-I-V-A-T-I-O-N!!

30 days of blogging challenge!

Day 01 A recent picture of you and 15 interesting facts about yourself.
Day 02 The meaning behind your Blogger name
Day 03 A picture of you and your friends
Day 04 A habit that you wish you didn't have
Day 05 A picture of somewhere you’ve been to
Day 06 Favorite super hero and why
Day 07 A picture of someone, something that has the biggest impact on you
Day 08 Short term goals for this month and why
Day 09 Something you’re proud of in the past few days
Day 10 Songs you listen to when you are Happy, Sad, Bored, Hyped, Mad
Day 11 Another picture of you and your friends
Day 12 How you found out about Blogger and why you made one
Day 13 A letter to someone who has hurt you recently
Day 14 A picture of you and your family
Day 15 Put your iPod on shuffle: First 10 songs that play
Day 16 Another picture of yourself
Day 17 Someone you would want to switch lives with for one day and why
Day 18 Plans/dreams/goals you have
Day 19 Nicknames you have; why do you have them
Day 20 Someone you see yourself marrying/being with in the future
Day 21 A picture of something that makes you happy
Day 22 What makes you different from everyone else
Day 23 Something you crave for a lot
Day 24 A letter to your parents
Day 25 What I would find in your bag
Day 26 What you think about your friends
Day 27 Why are you doing this 30 day challenge
Day 28 A picture of you last year and now, how have you changed since then?
Day 29 In this past month, what have you learned
Day 30 Who are you?

I have RELAPSED!!!

Shaking my head at myself...yes indeed..
If you are one of my readers, you may have remembered when I last posted of my obsession of collecting magazines, well hoarding magazines. At the end of my post I think I mentioned about being better at it in 2011. Well based off of this current photo, I just took today...the obsession has become slightly worse and out of hand.

Like Sasha said last year, if you come to your girls house, you can't say I couldn't offer you no good reads!! LOL...

Okay, I Tricia, promise NOT to buy another magazine until I can at least get rid of half of this stash...I know its stupid ridiculous.

My favs:
O
Essence
Sister to Sister
Upscale
Creating Keepsakes
Black Woman
Vibe
Better Homes & Gardens
Scrapbooks Etc.


Revisit last years post and last years photo...which has nothin on what is goin on today!

http://supahwomanadayinthelifeof.blogspot.com/2010/12/ok-ok-i-admit-it.html

This Stinks!

Ok, it has truly been awhile since I have been this sick! This makes absolutely no sense!

It started about 2 weeks ago I guess, Bre caught the wonderful Pink Eye, and on top of that had a few cold symptoms.

Well about 2 days after I took her in, my symptoms began to come and visit as well as mom and then dad! None of us (mom, dad or myself) got Pink Eye, but we got horrible colds.

Last Friday, was my absolute worst. By the end of the night I looked like I had a run in with Ike Turner, bloody nose, swollen face, etc. Next morning I made an appointment in urgent care which is when I discovered I had my first ever sinus infection. Not the business. So I walked away with 4 prescriptions...Amoxicillan (Antibiotics), Prednisone (steroids), an inhaler and eye freakin drops! Not cool...

Since then I have had okay days, but at night its the pits. No sleep. Cough attacks that would last about 2 hours...by the time I get good sleep has typically be running between the hours of 3-5am...then of course the alarm is about to buzz. So yeah, I am slightly irritated. Bre WAS getting better BUT since the 3 of us were sick...she is now sick again and its back with a vengeance on my little princess. She has missed school again this week..and you know a sista still has to pay tuition whether she is there or not...argh!

Anyhow, pray for our health and that we all get better. This is NOT the business!!!!

The Love Dare...

**Borrowed from someone very special to me, here is an excerpt from this book I can't wait to read. Those who are married may find this book helpful. Have you watched the movie Fireproof? Wonderful movie, which is featured in the storyline of Fireproof. Check both out if you can should be beneficial. Just reading this excerpt alone gave me an unwanted reality check.**

Love is Unconditional
God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ dies for us. – Romans 5:8

If someone were to ask you, “Why do you love your wife?” or “Why do you love your husband?” – what would you say?

Most men would mention their wife’s beauty, her sense of humor, her kindness, her inner strength. They might talk about her cooking, her knack for decorating, or what a good mother she is.

Women would probably say something about their husband’s good looks or his personality. They’d commend him for his steadiness and consistent character. They’d say they love him because he’s always there for them. He’s generous. He’s helpful.

But what if over the course of years, your wife or husband stopped being every one of those things. Would you still love them? Based on your answers above, the only logical response would be “no.” If your reasons for loving your spouse all have something to do with his or her qualities – and then those same qualities suddenly or gradually disappear – your basis for love is over.

The only way love can last a lifetime is if it’s unconditional. The truth is this: love is not determined by the one being loved but rather by the one choosing to love.

The Bible refers to this kind of love by using the Greek word agape (pronounced uh-GOP-ay).

It differs from the other types of love, which are – phileo (friendship) and eros (sexual love). Both friendship and sex have an important place in marriage, of course, and are definitely part of the house you build together as husband and wife. But if your marriage totally depends on having common interests or enjoying a healthy sex life, then the foundation of your relationship is unstable.

Phileo and eros are more responsive in nature and can fluctuate based upon feelings. Agape love, on the other hand, is selfless and unconditional. So unless this kind of love forms the foundation of your marriage, the wear and tear of time will destroy it. Agape love is in “sickness and health” love, “for richer or poorer” love, “for better or worse” love. It is the only kind of love that is true love.

That’s because this is God’s kind of love. He doesn’t love use because we are lovable but because He is so loving. The Bible says, “In this love, not that we loved God, but that He loved us and sent His Son to be the propitiation for our sins” (1 John 4:10). If He insisted that we prove ourselves worthy of His love, we would fail miserably. But God’s love is a choice He makes completely on His own. It’s something we receive from Him and then share with others. “We love, because He first loved us” (1 John 4:19).

If a man says to his wife, “I have fallen out of love with you,” he is actually saying, “I never loved you unconditionally to begin with.” His love was based on feelings or circumstances rather than commitment. That’s the result of building a marriage on phileo or eros love. There must be a stronger foundation than mere friendship or sexual attraction. Unconditional love, agape love, will not be swayed by time or circumstance.

That’s not to say, though, that love which began for the wrong reasons cannot be restored and redeemed. In fact, when you rebuild your marriage with agape as its foundation, then the friendship and romantic aspects of your love become more endearing than ever before. When your enjoyment of each other as best friends and lovers is based on unwavering commitment, you will experience an intimacy that cannot be achieved any other way.

But you will struggle and fail to attain this kind of marriage unless you allow God to begin growing His love within you. Love that “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Corinthians 13:7) does not come from within. It can only come from God.

The Scriptures say that “neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor things present, nor things to come, nor powers, nor height, nor depth, nor any other created thing, will be able to separate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord” (Romans 8:38-39). This is God’s kind of love. And thankfully – by your choice – it can become your kind of love. But first you must receive it and share it.

And don’t be surprised, when your spouse begins living confidently under its shade, if he or she doesn’t become even more lovable to you than you remember. You will no longer say, “I love you because …” You will now say, “I love you, period.”

Material taken from The Love Dare by Stephen and Alex Kendrick, copyright ©

Entertainment Week of 9/8/11

Eddie Murphy will be the host of The 2012 Academy Awards. This is great for the 50-year old comedian. What a milestone this will be in his career. I think Murphy will make a great host. He is a comic genius, and he knows movies. In 2006, he was nominated for best supporting actor for his work in Dreamgirls. Murphy has a new movie coming out in November called Tower Heist with Ben Stiller. He has another movie coming out in January called A Thousand Words.

Boxing Legend Oscar De La Hoya is coming clean. After leaving rehab, he is telling all. De la Hoya has admitted the photos that came out of him dressed in women’s lingerie were him. The photos came out in 2007, and were released by an angry ex-girlfriend. De La Hoya says he took the photos under the influence of alcohol and cocaine. De La Hoya has been sober for the past three months.

Rapper Actor T.I. is back in jail. He was out for one day when Federal Officials put him back. T.I. was released early on good behavior and was supposed to be in a halfway house, but he left an Arkansas jail in a fancy tour bus. Even though prison officials took photos with him in front of the bus, he was still sent back to prison. Officials argued they thought T.I. was leaving in a van, not a splashy tour bus filled with cameras for a future reality show. T.I. is due to be released from jail on September 29th.

Funeral services are set for McKinley "Bug" Williams, one of the original members of Frankie Beverly and Maze. Williams, 65, died of a heart attack last Friday after rehearing for a concert with Maze. Funeral services are Monday, September 12th at New Covenant Church, 7500 Germantown Avenue. The viewing is from 9am to 11am, and service starts at 11am. McKinley is preceded in death by five of his brothers. Williams was a Germantown native who attended Germantown High. Williams was with Frankie Beverly as the group went through several transitions, including their days as "Raw Soul" and the group's mentoring by the late Marvin Gaye. It was Gaye who suggested a final name change. Once becoming Maze and releasing their self-titled debut in 1977, the group made history. Williams leaves behind a daughter, a sister and a host of nieces, family members and friends.

It’s official! Holly Robinson Peete is no longer a part of CBS’ The Talk. In her statement, Robinson Peete thanked CBS for the opportunity to be a part of a talk show, and she was very gracious. The CBS network did Holly dirty! They fired her and Leah Remini, and never gave a good excuse why. Robinson Peete and Remini were replaced by Sheryl Underwood and Molly Shannon. Sources say Head Moderator Julie Chen, who is married to CBS Boss Les Moonves, wants all the spotlight on her, and didn’t want any competition from the others.

Congrats to Mel B, the former Spice Girl has given birth to her third child, a girl with hubby Stephen Belafonte.

Jada Pinkett Smith’s TNT show, HawthorRNe, has been cancelled after three seasons.

Actor Jason George is returning to Grey’s Anatomy. George resumes the role of “Dr. Ben Warren,” who was the love interest of Chandra Wilson’s character. “Bailey’s” ex-boyfriend makes his debut later this year. The new season of Grey’s Anatomy kicks off September 22nd on ABC.

How far along is Beyonce in her pregnancy? Her pregnancy announcement made headlines around the world. It was a great TV moment, but her use of a prosthetic belly may backfire on her. She is barely three months pregnant and not really showing at all. This is going to be a very long pregnancy.
How hot is The Help? The surprise box office smash has taken in close to $118 million at the box office.

Regis Philbin is leaving his daytime talker Regis & Kelly on November 18th. The 80-year old TV vet is ready to call it quits. There has been no word on who will replace Regis.

Mariah Carey plans to show off her post baby body when The X Factor debuts on the 21st. Simon Cowell’s new singing reality show features Carey as a mentor. While she was pregnant with twins, Carey gained a lot of weight. She wants to look her best when the show kicks off. The X-Factor debuts Sept. 21st on FOX with Paula Abdul, L.A. Reid, Nicole Scherzinger and Simon Cowell. A lot of people are wondering when we will ever see photos of her twin babies with hubby Nick Cannon.

Here’s a Basketball Wives update: Meeka Claxton is out. She never fit in with the other ladies, Evelyn Lozada may or may not be pregnant, but now that she is dating Chad Ochocinco, she doesn’t want to return to the show. Malaysia of the L.A. version of Basketball Wives has some explaining to do. She is married to Jannero Pargo of the Chicago Bulls, but back in the day, she was butt naked in music videos with Ludacris.

A street in Chicago was named in honor of Don Cornelius, the host and creator of TV’s Soul Train. This year marks the 40th anniversary of Soul Train.

Tennis sensation Venus Williams, 31, recently revealed she is suffering from an autoimmune disease. Williams is suffering from Sjogren's syndrome. It causes fatigue and pain and there is no known cure. The disease is not life threatening and if managed properly it shouldn’t end her career. Williams says she hopes to return to tennis soon and is going to focus on getting better.

Forest Whitaker has a new TV project for the TNT network. His first show is about a female police officer.

For 41 years she played “Erica Kane” on ABC’s All My Children, and now Susan Lucci is ready to tell all. In her new book, All My Life, she talks about the cancellation of All My Children. She says the show lost out to greed. All My Children ends its run on September 23rd. The soap opera is moving on line, but Lucci has not decided if she will make the move with the show.

Chris Tucker is working on his comeback. He is close to signing a deal for two new movies. Tucker is currently on a stand up comedy tour.

Arsenio Hall wants to return to late night TV. Now that the BET network has given Mo’Nique the boot, will they respond to Arsenio and consider him?

According to published reports, Diana Ross is not happy that her daughter Tracee is dating a polygamist. Tracee is dating Bu Thiam, who is the brother of Singer/Rapper Akon. Bu has money and is well known in the entertainment world. He and Tracee are very close, but Tracee had to assure her mother she would never marry a man who would take other women as wives. Tracee has a new show debuting on BET next month called Reed Between The Lines with Malcolm Jamal Warner.

Rosie O’Donnell will be on the October cover of O magazine with Oprah Winfrey. O’Donnell has a new show debuting on the O network this fall.

Idris Elba is now Mr. Smartwater. Elba, who just celebrated his 39th birthday, has been named as the face of the new fall campaign for Smartwater.

Sherri Shepherd Gets Married airs on the Style network Tuesday, September 13th. The View co-host wed TV Writer Lamar Sally, and she admits she didn’t wear any underwear on her wedding day.

The new issue of Essence magazine features First Lady Michelle Obama.

Alicia Keys, Jennifer Aniston and Demi Moore are the cover girls for the latest edition of Glamour magazine. They are promoting their new breast cancer project for the Lifetime network

A new tell-all is coming out about Comedian Katt Williams. He was once one of the top name comedians, and now he is known for making headlines for foolishness. In the book Pimp Down: The Rise And Fall Of Katt Williams, the author, a former employee of Williams, details the drama, the personal business, mental breakdowns, tantrums, drugs, groupies, lavish hotels, multiple suicide attempts, jail time, gang hits, booze and expensive cars.

The Rachel Ray Show did a special Philadelphia taping featuring Boyz II Men and Patti LaBelle. It will air September 26th. Speaking of Boyz II Men, they’re back with a new song More Than You’ll Ever Know with “Uncle” Charlie Wilson.

In more Boyz II Men news, they celebrate 20 years with a new album this fall. Twenty is a double CD with 10 new songs and updated versions of their classics including End Of The Road and I’ll Make Love To You. Along with Charlie Wilson, Jimmy Jam and Terry Lewis and Babyface helped out on the project. The CD will be sold exclusively at Wal-Mart. They will also be in concert Saturday, September 17th at Temple University’s Performing Arts Center on North Broad Street.

This fall, look for Tyler Perry’s A Madea Christmas and his new TBS TV series with Tasha Smith and Michael Jai White. The show, For Better Or For Worse debuts November 23rd on TBS. The TV show is based on Perry’s hit movie series Why Did I Get Married.

Get ready for season four of Real Housewives Of Atlanta kicking off on the Bravo network in November.

Steve Harvey’s Family Feud is coming to NBC-10 starting September 12th and will air at 12noon. NBC-10 will also air a new mid-morning news show at 11am followed by The Ten Show in a new half-hour format at 11:30am. Steve is also coming to town with a new comedy show on Saturday, November 5th at the Liacouras Center. Steve is also launching a new daytime talk show in the fall of 2012.

At the movies, it’s Comedian Kevin Hart and his new movie Laugh At My Pain. He just started work on his new FOX-TV show Little In Common with Gabrielle Union. The show debuts in January 2012. He is also starring in the movie Think Like A Man, based on Steve Harvey’s popular book, which opens in theatres next spring.

American Idol’s 11th season kicks off Sunday, January 22nd following the NFC Championship game. Jennifer Lopez, Steven Tyler, Randy Jackson and Ryan Seacrest are all returning.

Andre Braugher is returning to NBC. He’s joining the cast of Law & Order: SVU. The new season kicks off September 14th on NBC. Braugher was recently on the cancelled TNT show Men Of A Certain Age and is up for an Emmy in September for that show. Braugher won an Emmy for his previous NBC drama Homicide: Life On the Street. The 63rd Annual Emmy Awards air September 18th on FOX. Congrats to Taraji P. Henson, Idris Elba, Laurence Fishburne and Alfre Woodard, who are also nominated for Emmys this year.

The Old Spice Guy is joining Charlie’s Angels. Isaiah Mustafa has joined the cast of the new version of famed 70’s action show which co-stars Annie Ilonzeh and is co-executive produced by Drew Barrymore. The new season kicks off Thursday, September 22nd on ABC. Mustafa was recently featured in Tyler Perry’s movie Madea’s Big Happy Family which comes out on DVD August 30th.

The 33rd Annual UNCF Evening Of Stars airs on BET September 25th. This year’s guests include Patti LaBelle, Jill Scott, Ledisi, Marsha Ambrosius, Estelle, Musiq Soulchild and Miquel.

The Queen Of Soul Aretha Franklin is getting a new salute. She’ll be honored once again by The Rock & Roll Hall Of Fame in their American Music Masters series. The Queen is also coming to NBC in a primetime special which airs September 24th. The special will feature music from her new album A Woman Falling Out Of Love. Franklin is very busy these days. She’s also teaming up with the legendary Tony Bennett for his new album Duets. She also opened up President Obama's recent Labor Day rally in Detroit.

Actor/Author Hill Harper is back with a new book: The Wealth Cure: Putting Money In Its Place. In his latest, Harper tells readers don’t let money rule you, but be an active architect in your own life. Stop the confusion and anxiety about money. Invest in oneself first. Harper’s previous books included Letters To A Young Brother, Letters To A Young Sister and The Conversation. Harper’s diagnosis of thyroid cancer helped inspire this book and coming to terms with what’s really important in life. He says he’s doing very well since the diagnosis. Harper is best known for his role as “Dr. Hawkes” on the CBS drama CSI: NY.

Get ready for the return of Braxton Family Values. The second season kicks in November on the WE network.

Joe’s new CD, The Good, The Bad And The Sexy, arrives in stores on September 27th.

Tyrese is gearing up to release a new album. The CD, Open Invitation, comes out November 1st. The Transformer III star is also pushing his latest book, How To Get Out Of Your Own Way. Tyrese has been getting some criticism for his latest music video. In explaining the lack of African American women in his video I Gotta Chick, he says he went with the best not race.

Melanie Fiona and Kelly Price have been added to the Kem show Friday, September 16th at the Mann Center For The Performing Arts.

Wayne Brady has been tapped to host an ol’ school jam in Las Vegas that Justin Timberlake is putting together. The event is happening in October, and will benefit the Shriners Hospital For Children. Charlie Wilson, The Commodores, Sister Sledge and Earth Wind & Fire are on the bill.

Angela Bassett is also coming to Broadway replacing Halle Berry in the production The Mountaintop. Samuel L. Jackson is starring as Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. The show opens October 13th.

Babyface is going on tour and coming to the Keswick Theatre on Saturday, November 26th.

The George Lucas movie Red Tails with Terrence Howard opens in theatres January 20, 2012. The movie about the first African American fighter pilots (The Tuskegee Airmen) also stars Oscar Winner Cuba Gooding, Jr.

Wendy Williams returns for a third season of her daytime talk show on September 12th.

The Bynum Brothers have a new venture: Green Soul, 7169 Ogontz Avenue. It’s a new healthy food restaurant.


WHAT’S THE UNDERGROUND BUZZ?!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

This first time father is the husband of a Reality Star, but money ain’t a thing for them. She’s bringing in cash from TV, music and child support, so looks like he can stretch out and relax.


Special Events!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Why Do Good Girls Like Bad Boys? The stage play stars Clifton Powell, Leon and Terrell Carter, September 27th- October 2nd at The Merriam Theatre. For more info call 215-893-1999 or Kimmelcenter.org.

Torn Between Two Fathers, A Priest Tyaire production September 17th at the Dupont Theatre in Wilmington, Delaware. For info call 302-762-4776.

Check out who’s coming to town:

Friday, September 16th- Kem with Melanie Fiona and Kelly Price at The Mann Center For The Performing Arts, 52nd Street and Parkside Avenue.
Saturday, September 17th- Boyz II Men at Temple University's Performing Arts Center on 1837 North Broad Street.
Saturday, September 24th- Sinbad at the Keswick Theatre in Glenside.

Sunday, September 25th – The rescheduled Boney James concert at the Keswick Theatre in Glenside.

Sunday, October 9th- Wanda Sykes at the Keswick Theatre in Glenside.
Saturday, October 22nd – Ledisi at Temple University’s Performing Arts Center on 1837 North Broad Street.
Sunday, October 23rd – George Benson in concert at the Keswick Theatre in Glenside.
Saturday, November 26th- Babyface in concert at the Keswick Theatre in Glenside.
April 10th, 2012- Cirque De Soleil Show featuring the music of Michael Jackson at the Wells Fargo Center(formerly the Wachovia Center).